Why is this word giving me an unfathomable quandary?
I trust other people with my feelings loosely and I think that's the very reason why I get hurt easily. Because the moment we give our trust to other people is also the same time when we become vulnerable to different kinds of pain. We take the risk because we believe that that person would care not to hurt us. But people have different mentality and outlook in life. And in this time where our life is a battlefield, we never know who's real and who's not. Sometimes the people we trust the most are the ones who betray us. And I think that's the worst part, being hurt by the people you love. That's why most of the time I prefer to be alone because that's the least way I could be hurt. But that doesn't mean that my life's boring and a plain mess. It also doesn't mean that I'm a coward. It's just that I've learned to put my heart in a refuge because I don't want it to be afflicted again for until now it hasn't totally recovered.
So I'm having this trust issue. But this won't be about me, it's about you.
Know who you trust your feelings with. People at times seem to care but most of the time it's just for a show because they want something from us. Parasites! But I'm not generalizing because there are still those who truly are concerned about how we feel and those are the ones you have to look for.
Never give your all. There should always be a barrier between what they should know and what they should not. There's always a limit for everything and you shouldn't go beyond that. There are things about us that even our closest friend doesn't have the right to know. And I think it's safer that way.
Learn also to keep secrets. If you want people not to break your trust then you should do the same thing. You should be mutually concurring with one another. What goes around comes back around, remember that.
Lastly, be careful of every move or decision you make. Always think beforehand the possible consequences it would lead to. Especially those people who would be involved and who would be affected. You never want to hurt others right? And hurting has never been a good idea, intentionally or obliviously it will never be a right thing to do.
Trust is not gained for a minute, an hour or even a day. It is gradually earned. And once earned, it should be handled conscientiously because once broken the shattered pieces will never be the same again. It may be renewed but never recovered.
So I'm having this trust issue. But this won't be about me, it's about you.
Know who you trust your feelings with. People at times seem to care but most of the time it's just for a show because they want something from us. Parasites! But I'm not generalizing because there are still those who truly are concerned about how we feel and those are the ones you have to look for.
Never give your all. There should always be a barrier between what they should know and what they should not. There's always a limit for everything and you shouldn't go beyond that. There are things about us that even our closest friend doesn't have the right to know. And I think it's safer that way.
Learn also to keep secrets. If you want people not to break your trust then you should do the same thing. You should be mutually concurring with one another. What goes around comes back around, remember that.
Lastly, be careful of every move or decision you make. Always think beforehand the possible consequences it would lead to. Especially those people who would be involved and who would be affected. You never want to hurt others right? And hurting has never been a good idea, intentionally or obliviously it will never be a right thing to do.
Trust is not gained for a minute, an hour or even a day. It is gradually earned. And once earned, it should be handled conscientiously because once broken the shattered pieces will never be the same again. It may be renewed but never recovered.
Trust. With each bad experience it takes longer and longer to trust someone. The wall to your heart gets thicker.
ReplyDeleteYes, I am an introvert. My story is one that I wish upon no one. I was naïve during a 6 year relationship and gave everything unconditionally. My ex turned out to be abusive and used me. After separating I learned from her family that she was an ex-felon. That was devastating!
Due to the emotional scars from that negative experience, I did not realize I sabotaged my future relationships by dismissing people quickly at any sign of a red flag.
Recently, I may have missed out on true love with my last relationship. She was a total sweetheart. I could easily relate to her since she was an introvert as well. Very calm, supportive and understanding. However, she was more on the extreme side and actually hated the phone. I misinterpreted this and felt hurt; thinking that she did not care. That's how messed up my past experience left me. I asked her about it, but she thought I was confronting her. I did not raise my voice, but could see that she immediately shut me out. All I wanted to do was understand her. I tried to apologize, however it was too late. She too had a negative experience previously. So we both had trust issues. Truly sad. To this day I am trying to regain her trust. Communications are very limited, so it is a difficult path. I know I have to respect her space.
God had a plan for both of us to meet. She actually healed me. I am now more self-aware and learning as much as possible about introversion. All along I was trying to live in an extroverted world. I would get drained by large crowds and needed solitude to reflect and recharge.
I am at my strongest today since I know who I am. It is true that for experience the test comes first and the lesson after. Only now have I learned. It took years. Valuable life lesson indeed.